Different places and times have unique and specific attributes – both good and bad. The
For this reason, we maintain practices of mourning and sadness during these weeks to heighten our own personal awareness of the calamities that befell the Jewish people and encourage us to evaluate ourselves personally and spiritually as well.
Below is a short primer on the basic halachot of the Three Weeks and Nine Days. If you have any additional questions, please feel free to contact me by phone (248-967-3652) or email (firstname.lastname@example.org) at any time.
The Three Weeks (17th of Tammuz – Rosh Chodesh Av, July 3rd – 24th)
In their attack on
The Nine Days (1st of Av – 9th of Av, July 16th – July 24th)
These nine days mark the classical mourning period for the destruction of the
Monday July 23rd – Tuesday, July 24th
Ma’ariv and Eichah
Shacharis and Kinos
Tisha B’av Films
We also don’t wear freshly laundered or pressed clothing during the Nine Days (so wear your clean clothes at least one time beforehand – underwear not included). We don’t bathe for pleasure, so we don’t go swimming in a pool or lake. When we bathe and shower, to ensure that we’re only showering to get clean, we only take quick, lukewarm or cold showers. It’s not about being dirty; it’s about refraining from activities that make us feel good. Therefore, we also don’t eat meat or drink wine on weekdays (we don’t mourn on Shabbos) during the Nine Days.
Erev Tisha B’av (July 23rd)
In order to prepare for the long fast, it’s a good idea to drink plenty of water throughout the day. We call the final meal before Tisha B’av the סעודה המפסקת – concluding meal. Because this meal takes on many elements of mourning, before this final meal, we eat a full, normal meal to prepare ourselves for the fast, finishing a short time before the onset of Tisha B’av. (It’s a good idea to eat a meal rich in starch.) Following that meal, we wash again, and eat bread and hard-boiled eggs, both dipped in ashes, while sitting on the ground. We eat this meal as individuals, and not together as a family, so we don’t bentch together.
Tisha B’av (July 23rd – Tuesday, July 24th)
Chazal designated Tisha B’av as the Jewish day to remember all the calamities that have befallen the Jewish people throughout history. We mark the day by reading Megillat Eichah, Kinos (Lamentations), and focusing on tragedies that have devastated us for so many years, from the destruction of the
- Eating and drinking, from sunset on Erev Tisha B’av until nightfall of Tisha B’av
- Washing and bathing, except for hand-washing in the morning and cleaning soiled hands
- Wearing leather shoes (canvas sneakers are fine)
- Marital relations
- Study of Torah (other than the calamitous and sad aspects that we learn on Tisha B’av)
- Anointing oneself (Actually, I’ve never seen anyone pour oil over himself, but they used to do it during the times of the Talmud, and apparently, it feels good. So don’t do it. Please DO use deodorant.)
- If you can take the day off and focus on the sad nature of the day, do it. It’s a very good thing to do, and will better sensitize you to the meaning of the day. If you can’t, it’s best not to go into work until chatzos ( – see the chart above)
- We also sit on the ground (or on low chairs) for the first half of the day, until chatzos.
One of the most difficult aspects of Tisha B’av is the challenge of making it meaningful. Somehow, after shul in the morning we find ourselves engaged in our normal daily activities. How do we make the day meaningful in the mournful spirit that we know Tisha B’av is supposed to be?
It’s not a day for shopping or pleasure trips. If you can, read a book or watch a film about the Holocaust. Write letters to victims of terrorism in
The Gemara tells us that כל המתאבל על ירושלים זוכה ורואה בשמחתה – “anyone who mourns for the destruction of